Older Women and Sex !

Hey peeps,

This is going out to all the ladies !

If you believe everything you see and read, you might think that sex is just for young people with perfect bodies.

Not so, for women in particular, sex can be even better when you don't have to worry about getting pregnant.

Women's bodies do change as they approach menopause. And, like other changes that accompany ageing, there are ways to adapt to those changes without compromising your lifestyle.

In the case of gradually failing eyesight, that means wearing glasses. When it comes to your sexuality, that means using medications and creams designed to deal with loss of libido and vaginal dryness.

The point is,  women shouldn't accept a lacklustre love life any more than they should accept blurry eyesight. Getting over the psychological obstacles can be the most important step. A key element is being able to talk with your partner, so that you can communicate your needs and find out about his. Another factor is being able to relax, take your time and enjoy sex.

Until da next Tyme!

Seduction !

hello peeps,


So once again I am putting it out there with some topics that we all seem to hide and bury our heads in the sand.
We all do it at one time or another in our life, we get the urge to seduce someone....... yes you did , its natural, don't try and deny it ...... whether its calling, the flirting of the eyes, the longing glance as the object of your eye walks away or toward you.... we all do it, its a part of our mating ritual 


But how do we know or  judge when seducing someone goes to far?


Five general seduction mistakes

Expecting the relationship to solve your problems
The rest of your life is dead dull. Nothing in it excites you. The only thing that makes life seem worthwhile is this new person you are dating. You put all your energy and time and passion into this new blossoming relationship. Surely this will be appreciated? Wrong.

This new person will quickly feel smothered by you and your neediness and hit the road at the first possible opportunity. No-one wants to feel that they are someone else’s heart-lung machine. Neurotic obsession is not an attractive thing.

If you enrich your life with other interests and activities, the passion you feel for things other than the relationship will be contagious and the person will be attracted by this. Other people cannot solve our problems – we have to become whole in ourselves before we can have successful relationships with other people.

Hopping into the sack too quickly
This is almost always a mistake. Having sex too soon gets the message across that this is not an unusual thing for you to do and therefore not special or out of the ordinary. Neither men nor women like the feeling that they might just be another notch on the bedpost. No-one likes feeling used, however good the sex was.

Find a way to put off sex until there is some emotional involvement, if you would like this connection to turn into anything long term. There’s nothing wrong with saying something like “I am very attracted to you, but when I like someone I don’t like rushing into things.” This lets your potential partner know that you have respect for him/her as well as for yourself and that you find them attractive. In other words, you are a good long term proposition.

Projecting your world of fantasy onto this person
From your rose-tinted perspective, the new woman/ man  in your life is perfect. A Dream Come True. All your friends can see that he/ she is a gold digger with another boyfriend/ girlfriend and they have a very uncertain career history.

Women are particularly prone to projecting their image of perfect partners onto someone who at best can only be seen as a long term project. Even if the thought of changing him is attractive, the bottom line is that it just doesn’t work. People are what they are and very seldom change. Especially not as a result of your efforts.

Learn to read the signs. If this person is curiously unavailable and uncontactable on certain weekends, has a problem with drinking or drugs that he promises to deal with sometime in the future and is between jobs, it is time for you to stop and smell the coffee. He or she is involved with at least one other person, is an alcoholic or drug addict with no intention of doing anything about it and has just been fired again.

This person will never be what you want them to be. Dump him/her as you are wasting valuable time.

Chasing someone too hard
Both men and women can spell desperation at fifty paces. And it doesn’t smell nice. If you are too insistent, phone too often, are always available at short notice (were you the third person he phoned for movies?), are prepared to put off other things when they want to see you, buying too many gifts and blaming them for not giving you enough attention, you will only succeed in making this person feel smothered and wanting to escape from you. This goes for both men and women.

Whereas attention is initially flattering, it is never a good idea to be too persistent in pursuing someone else. Making someone feel claustrophobic is not a good start to anything.

Whether we like it or not, men traditionally like to be the pursuers . Being chased too hard and unsubtly, is only going to make them run. In many cases women also feel claustrophobic if someone is too insistent.

The heart-lung machine syndrome
You begin to spend all your time together. You go to the same places, see the same people and do all the same things together. You no longer see your old friends or go to the book club or go walking with a friend. Your parents haven’t seen you in weeks. You and your new partner are suffering from the Siamese twin syndrome.

You and your new partner begin to depend on each other more and more and you are both starting to alienate old friends. Giving up your individual identity for each other is something that will always backfire on the long run.

Invariably, one person gets to expect too much from the other one and starts taking them for granted, because they are there and all too willing. One person will start to put less and less effort into the relationship as the other one is willing to do all the work. No-one likes feeling totally responsible for someone else’s happiness.

It is important for both men and women to hold onto their individual identity. Don’t change who you are for someone else. If they don’t love you for who you are, they don’t love you. Simple as that. Pursue your own activities and interests and continue seeing friends and family. That way you will have something to talk about when you see each other again.

Until da next Tyme! 

Sex is good for you !

Hey sexy people,

Ok I am putting it out there, as I came of age, my sexual appetite has increased....

Now for those people that s reeling with horror with remarks such as  ... Oh my god, how can she say that ??? 

Life is too short to hold back, we all need to own and know ourselves to fully enjoy living

It comes as no surprise to most people that scientific evidence is mounting that sex is good for your health. It adds enjoyment to our lives and may even make us live longer.  

There is growing evidence that health does not only depend on genetics, diet and exercise, but also on the social and emotional health of the individual.

Sexual healing requires the maintenance of a close intimate relationship, which could, in turn, lead to balance between our health and healing systems.

The flip side of this is that a lack of sexual intimacy can create a risk factor for certain diseases. Sexual dissatisfaction seems to be prevalent prior to heart attacks, while sexual contentment appears related to less severe migraines, less severe premenstrual syndrome in women and a reduction in symptoms related to chronic arthritis for both men and women.

Researchers have not exactly determined how our thoughts, feelings and immune system and genital system interact and how this influences our health. There is a strong indication that when we experience intimate, mutually caring sexual intimacy, we may experience a measurable change in neurochemicals and hormones that pour through the body and help promote health and healing.

This does not mean just having sex more often, but that it is that feeling of openness, connection to and bonding with a partner that makes sex such a healing experience.

So bottom line is be healthy in your sexual encounters, it is good for you , in mind, body and soul!

Until da next Tyme!

Cross Dressing

Hey y'all


So following with the theme, today's topic is Cross Dressing ....


Yes men are renowned for it and some of us even turn up our noses if we discover someone that we know who indulges in it.Cross-dressing, documented throughout history around the globe, is a well-known erotic activity. Done occasionally for fun or variety, it’s an offbeat variation. Some men do it alone; some couples play with it together.


But some men can’t get excited without cross-dressing; others can get excited, but don’t feel really satisfied unless it’s part of sex. That’s when therapists describe it as a fetish. A fetish is an eroticised object (or, depending on your point of view, body part) whose use is crucial to a person’s sexual function. Unlike a vibrator, which is valued because it provides direct physical stimulation, a fetish provides psychological stimulation.


Often, just the sight of a fetish object - say a muddy shoe - provides the erotic jolt. If the fetishised object does provide physical stimulation - say, using a glove to stroke the penis - the physical stroking may be enjoyable, but the identical stroking from, say, a napkin won’t provide nearly the same charge. For the fetishist, in a sense, the idea of being stroked by a glove is more important than the feeling of being stroked by a glove.


Until da next Tyme !

The Infamous G Spot .....

Hey y'all,


So as your girl is kinda straight talking, I am about to discuss a topic that many of my female readers will appreciate and the male will gringe ( as they think they know it all already) 
Education one on one. blokes pay attention now and stay with me .......its gonna get graphic :) 


The much-maligned Missionary Position can lead to powerful orgasms for women, as long as the right pressure is applied. To get it right you need to know where the famous G-spot is and how to make it happy. Here’s how.


I  realise all you blokes know where the female G-spot is. But here’s a reminder, just to be sure. Start with the appropriate amount of necking. Once she’s aroused, insert one or two fingers into your partner’s vagina, with the palm of your hand on her pubic mound., guys this is a patient exercise, not a race !!!


Just inside the vagina you should be able to feel a coin-sized lump beneath your fingertips. It feels spongy, or a bit like a walnut and it's rich in nerve endings. Stroke it gently but firmly and you might feel it swell. This move should also generate an enthusiastic response from your partner.


Focus your moves 
She might like you to give her an orgasm in this way, or she might prefer to have you inside her. To continue the G-spot stimulation, you can try what’s called the Realignment Technique. Lie flat and slide up toward her head. Encourage her to vary the angle of her legs and torso to where she feels the most sensation.


Remember that not everyone’s vagina runs into the body at the same angle, so experiment with different positions until you find one that well, hits the spot.


You can enter her vagina from behind, with her either kneeling or lying on the bed. She can also lie with her buttocks on the edge of the bed and her legs on your shoulders while you stand or kneel beside the bed. This will ensure that your penis is at an upward angle, maximizing contact with the G-spot.


In this position you’d be better off concentrating on rhythmic, firm pressure, rather than thrusting as though you’re in a rodeo. Having said that, if you’re hitting the right spot you might have to hold on once she starts to enjoy it.


Remember that you should only go for sexual gymnastics of any sort if you’re both confident and relaxed with them. It’s not something that you’re accomplishing, but something that you both share. That’s the best way to ensure the sound-effects that’ll rattle the rafters and have the neighbours talking.


Until da next Tyme !

What is Fetishism ?

Hey Y'all

So the first topic is Fetishism . We all have our own idea of what is a fetish, and some of us might even sneer at the idea of what other people consider to be normal ... but with the society that we love in sexual  fetishism is becoming the norm .....


Fetishism is a paraphilia that focuses on the obsession of an object, and the sexual arousal that seeing or interacting with that object may bring. Some of the more common objects that become a fetish are women’s bras, underpants, shoes, stockings or other items of clothing. Once a fetish for an object has developed, it often becomes a chronic problem.


An individual with a fetish will often masturbate to orgasm while looking at, rubbing, holding or smelling the object, or may request a sexual partner to hold or wear the fetish object during sexual interaction.


In many cases, the fetish object is required by the individual in order to be aroused or to reach orgasm, and is categorised as one of the first symptoms of fetishism. Not having the object may result in a complete loss of sexual drive, and even erectile dysfunction in men.


The use of women’s clothing in cross-dressing, or the use of sex toys that have been designed for genital stimulation such as dildo’s are not regarded as symptoms of fetishism, even though they may play a big part in sexual arousal.


Some common fetish ranges from , spandex, feet, urine fetish  also knows as "golden Showers"


Whatever the fetish , it can become excessive, and like I always say.... don't knock it until you try it !

Until da next Tyme !

Fantasies, Fetishism and more !

Hey y'all,


Yep its ya girl Missy, once again  taking things to the boundary and talking about  subjects that people seem to hide/ talk behind close doors.


Sometimes not a bad idea, but I think it also needs to come out in the open.... transparency is a great thing.


So over the next few days I will be talking sexual fantasies, fetishism, alternative sexual practices etc.


Lets face it people , we all need and like sex.... if you don't , why are you lying ? and you must not be human, so lets be open and honest . 


Feel free to leave a comment when you have a point to share 


Unrtil da next Tyme !